• Coach Alisa

Social Comparisons are Not Good For Us

Updated: Sep 13, 2019

Comparisons Make Us Aware of How Good, Bad or Middling We Are

It is a natural human trait to compare ourselves with others. However much we try not to, with or without the pressure of social media, we all find ourselves comparing our appearance, behaviour, earning power, intelligence, values, and the impact we make on the world with those around us. Without this propensity, we probably wouldn’t have an awareness of how good, bad or middling we are as people. #Comparisons #PressureOfSocialMedia

Comparisons Highlight Our Imperfections

However, social comparisons don’t feel like they are good for us: They highlight our imperfections and can be destructive. When I started out as a coach, I often caught myself comparing myself with the other amazing and dynamic coaches around me and felt inadequate. My self-talk told me that they are all better than me—more dynamic, more creative, more distinctive. #Imperfections #Coach #LifeCoach #CareerCoach #SelfTalk

Comparisons Don’t Serve Us

I knew that these comparisons weren’t serving me, so I made an active decision to refrain from this unhealthy tendency. When I actively let go of self-judgement, I came to the realization that the extensive group of coaches I am connected with are neither my competition nor my adversaries. They are my peer support network. I can learn from them and they can learn from me. We can share knowledge, experience and expertise; we can help and support each other emotionally and practically; we can help raise each other’s confidence and positivity, especially when we are feeling low. #Unhealthy #SelfJudgement #Coaching #PeerSupport #Confidence #Positivity

Peer Support Is A Privilege

This awareness helped me shift my focus to a recognition that I am truly privileged to work alongside a cohort of change makers whose work is focused on helping people and each other do good in the world. #Awareness #ChangeMakers #DoGoodInTheWorld

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